Chicken Soup for the Surviving Soul

by Beverly Kirkhart, Jack Canfield, Mark Victor

Author Beverly Kirkhart Jack Canfield Mark Victor Hansen and Patty Aubery Isbn 9781558744028 File size 44MB Year 1996 Pages 384 Language English File format PDF Category Family and Friendship More than 100 cancer survivors share their personal stories in this touching new collection of Chicken Soup These heartwarming accounts of courageous people who found the power to battle cancer in their endless hope unwavering faith and steadfast determination will inspire you to adopt a positive att

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Author : Beverly Kirkhart, Jack Canfield, Mark Victor Hansen, and Patty Aubery

ISBN : 9781558744028

Year : 1996

Language: English

File Size : 44MB

Category : Family and Friendship



"Chicken Soup for the Surviving Soul will not only comfort

and inspire cancer survivors and their loved ones, it will
comfort and inspire anyone breathing. It's mandatory
reading!"

Wally Amos
'The Cookie Man"
pick-me-up
book. We all go through tough times in our lives. The
inspiring stories in this book show us all that we can get
through these events and even learn from them— that is
"Chicken Soup for the Surviving Soul

is

a great

the secret of surviving!"

Dan Jansen
Olympic gold-medal speed skater
wonderful book teaches us that one can make
We can find the
blessings
the lessons to be learned
the strength we
never knew we had. I know
cancer was one of the most
"Yes! This

cancer a triumph instead of a tragedy!
.

.

.

.

.

empowering

'gifts'

in

.

.

.

.

my life."
Susan

author, Feel the Fear and

End

the Struggle

Do

Jeffers,
It

Ph.D.

Anyway and

and Dance with

Life

"Over the past 14 years of providing psychological and
emotional support to thousands of cancer patients, we
have discovered that there are significant therapeutic
benefits from interacting with other cancer patients.
Chicken Soup for the Surviving Soul, a wonderfully inspirational book, introduces the cancer patient to

who understand

many

others

every nuance of the cancer experience."
Harold H. Benjamin, Ph.D.

founder and president, The Wellness Community

you by the hand and take you by
and show you how much each of us can do."

Those stories will take
the heart,

W.

Mitchell,

Man Who Would Not Be

CPAE

and
internationally recognized expert on change

author, The

Defeated

loved this wonderful, heartwarming book. It reminded
me of all the people I have worked with since 1974.
Reading it was like sitting in a hundred support groups.
"I

You leave
something

feeling you've shared

something important,

of yourself/'

NeeDell Babcock
founder, Cancer Counseling Inc.
Elise

and author, When
"Chicken Soup for the Surviving Soul

Life

Becomes Precious

shows us what

all

the

blood tests, X rays and MRIs cannot possibly reveal— the
true nature of the surviving soul. Through the horror of

have found the honor of everyday
By sharing their stories with us, they fill us with the
power not only to survive but, indeed, to thrive. Besides
cancer patients, their families and health-care givers, anyone who's had so much as a broken nail or a broken heart
cancer, these heroes

life.

should read this book."

Robert Wollman, M.D.
Holy Cross Hospital Cancer Center
"This

book

is

inspiration— as

a

godsend

we

all

the Surviving Soul are

insight into

improve

how

do.

for

anyone who needs some

The

stories in Chicken

from people

to live

life

more

who have

fully and, in

Soup

for

a special

doing

so,

their health."

O. Carl Simonton, M.D.
Simonton Cancer Center

CHICKEN SOUP
FOR THE
SURVIVING SOUL
101 Healing Stories

Who Have

About Those

Survived Cancer

Jack Canfield

Mark

Victor

Patty

Nancy

Hansen

Aubery

Mitchell, R.N.

Beverly Kirkhart

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Health Communications, Inc.
Deerfield Beach, Florida

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We w ould like to acknowledge the following publishers and individuals for
permission to reprint the following material.
Soul Menders.

&

Excerpted from her book Animals as Teachers & Healers: True
by Susan Chernak McElroy. ©1996 New Sage Press.

Reflections,

by permission of The Candlelighters
The Candlelighters Childhood Cancer
©1995
by
Foundation.
Childhood Cancer
From on Chemo

to

on Camera. Reprinted

Foundation Youth Newsletter. All rights reserved.

You Can Teach an Old Dog
I

uerst,

New

M.D. ©1996 Howard

J.

Reprinted by permission of

Tricks.

Fuerst,

Howard

J.

M.D.

Billionaire. Reprinted with permission from the October 1991
©1991 by The Reader's Digest Assn., Inc.

The Boy and the
Reader's Digest.

Hope. Reprinted

by permission

of

Commune-A-Key Publishing. ©1994 William

Buchholz, M.D.
(Continued on page 356)

Library of Congress Cataloging-in-Publication Data

Chicken soup

for the

survived cancer
p.

/

surviving soul

:

101 healing stories about those

[compiled by] Jack Canfield

.

.

.

who have

[et al.].

cm.

Includes bibliographical references

ISBN 1-55874-402-9

(trade paper).

(p.

).

- ISBN 1-55874-403-7 (hardcover)

1. Consolation.
2. Suffering.
4. Cancer3. Courage— Case studies.
Patients— Case studies. 5. Terminally ill— Psychology. 6. Terminally ill—
Family relationships. I. Canfield, Jack, date.

BV4910.33.C48

1996

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362.1'96994-dc20

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>% by Jack Canfield, Mark Victor Hansen, Patty Aubery and Nancy Mitchell
ISBN 1-55874-402-9 (trade paper)
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by Andrea Perrine Brower

With love

we

dedicate

Chicken Soup for the Surviving Soul to

Linda Mitchell

— a survivor, and Patty and

Nancy's mother— who originally suggested that

we

compile

it.

She spent hundreds of hours

reading over a thousand stories and
in the creation of

encouragement
it

it

poems

and gave us the

to continue

would never come

when we thought

to completion.

Chicken Soup for the Surviving Soul

would not

We
Jeff

exist

without you!

also dedicate

it

to

Aubery, Patty's husband,

spent the

last six

months

who

of this project as

virtually a single parent with their

son

while Patty worked to complete

it.

J.T.

No Road Too Steep
There

is

no path

so dark,

nor road so steep,
nor

hill

so slippery

that other people

have

not been there
before

me

and survived.

May my dark times
teach me to help
the people

on

I

love

similar journeys.

Maggie Bedrosian

Contents
Foreword

Bernie S. Siegel,

M.D

xi

Acknowledgments

xv

Introduction

1.

xviii

ON HOPE

What Cancer Cannot Do

Unknown

2

The Soul Menders Susan Chernak McElroy

3

From on Chemo to on Camera Kristine Kirsten
You Can Teach an Old Dog New Tricks Howard J.

7

The Boy and the

Hope

William

Bill

Billionaire

22

Mary

L.

Rapp

25

A

Stoliker

Freeman

40

P.

DETERMINATION

Nintendo Master

44
51

Speaker's Sourcebook II

Not Without a Fight

32
37

Slope Adrienne Rivera

"Never Give Up!"

Fighting

Kimberly

Robert H. Doss

Joanne

ON COURAGE AND
Down

28

Geralyn Gaes

the Best of Times

the

13

Hansen

Cancer and Career Choices

Up

10

21

Victor

Cancer Has Been a Blessing

2.

M.D

Mark

Kids with Cansur

It Is

Fuerst,

John Pekkanen

M. Buchholz, M.D

Amy Graham
Wild

Source

Mary Helen

53

Brindell

58

Katie Gill

Back— One Man's

Battle with a Brain

Tumor
60

Reverend Robert Craig

vii

CONTENTS

viii

Dream Manuel Diotte
Fulfilling My Dreams Marilyn
Pan'

68

to

R

Moody

Chris— One Special Fifth-Grader!
\lv

[ero

1

The Container

ON
Is

On

Rachel

Laugh!

of

Erik Olesen

79

Naomi Remen, M.D

82

My Life

Stronger

The Power

.

M. Lousig-Nont, Ph.D

John Wayne Schlatter

.

92

McWilliams

95
97

Until Tomorrow Comes Wanda Kelly
Two Things Not to Worry About Source Unknown
Head First Norman Cousins
I've Just Got to Make That Man Laugh!

Meladee and Hanoch McCarty

of

Laughter

Second Thoughts
Reaching

The Power

of

ON
a

On

Faith
1

it

116

124

Norman Cousins

124
125

Laughter Allen Klein

127

Paula (Bachleda) Koskey

tor the Prize

Say

he

114

129

FAITH

Coin-

I

107

122

Allen Klein

Victim or Survivor

4.

Norman Cousins

Robert Lipsyte

for the Best

The Centerfold

J.

Khan-Lacoss

Allen Klein

laving an Attitude

98
106

Ill

The Prosthesis Intruder Maureen
The Value

88

90

Choose Sharon Bruckman

to

Peter

.

Gregory

The "Wee" Nurse Norman Cousins

1

72

ATTITUDE

The Best Day
Love

70

76

Katie Gill

Keep on Keeping

3.

Louise Biggs

Prayer

loly
I

Bob

Bernie

Water

All the

139

M.D

140

Kathy LaTour

143

S. Siegel,

Jeanette

Doyle Parr

You Today

d a Prayer tor
Ik'

132

Westeirtierg

xpectations

Don't Worry

PaulAzinger

\

[appy

Source

Unknown

Paul Santaro

Necessary Supplies

Dianne Clark

144
150
151

155

CONTENTS

5.

ON

ix

LOVE

Eileen Brown's Story

Eileen

A Pocket Full of Quarters

Brown O'Riley

C

Anne

Washburn

158

169

Manuel Garcia David Roth

171

Hairs

174

Dear

Jaime Rosenthal

Mommy

Alexi

Thomas

175
Cynthia Bonney Mannering

Saint Christopher's Protection

Our Hero Brian Norma Yamamoto
Happy Anniversary Allen Klein
Love and Support

Christine

Love Cures People

Out

in the

Open

M.

180
183

186

Janine Crawford

188

Michelle

Believe in Miracles

6.

ON

"Pete,

184

Creley

"You Are Going to Need a Surgeon"
I

176

Delva Seavy-Rebin

189

193

Chris King

SUPPORT

You Have Cancer!"

196

Pete Legge

Teens Launch Campaign to Save Dying Baby's Life
202

JeffLeeland

Judy
Mrs.

Nancy Richard-Guilford

G

in

3B

205

Linda Neukrug

207

The Wellness Community Harold H.
The Corporate Angel Network The
To Climb a Mountain

An Affair

Diana

L.

Benjamin, Ph.D

Corporate Angel Network

Chapman

211

214
217

Remember Linda Mitchell
Simply Hold a Hand Bernie S. Siegel, M.D

225

You've Got a Friend

228

to

Carole King

Dear Dr. Terebelo Paula

(Bachleda) Koskey

To the Nurses of the World

John Wayne Schlatter

227

230

233

The Healing

Sybil Taylor

235

Kindest Cut

People Magazine

242

Taking Time for Tenderness
Practical Tips to

Mary Vaughn Armstrong

Help the Seriously

111

247

Saint Anthony's Health Center

How to Make a Sick Child Smile
The Way Back

Don's Knight

244

Marilyn Phillips

250
253

CONTENTS

x

Reach

raking Charge

A
7.

265

Phil

special Mission

ON

INSIGHTS

Sister

Me

Humor Helps Erma
Cancer Introduced

My
My

Bernadette

Learning Experience

Thoughts

C Randle

Lisa

to

290
(Bachleda) Koskey

Live Your Life

Finding

My

It

301

Judy and Katie
Is

307

Griffler

a Lifetime

.

Mary Lyn

Passion

For?

.

.

Claire

Things

I've

to Beat

Celebrate

Cancer

Life!

309
313

Miller

318

Learned Along the

Sally P. Kanoth, Ph.D.,

How

Nuer

Jane Hill

The Best Thing That Ever Happened
Fifty

to

Me

Roberta Andresen

320

Way

R.N

City of

Sister

296

299

Kathy LaTour

Twenty Minutes
What's

Linda Blackman

Warren

Jill

291

Paula (Bachleda) Koskey.... 293

Realizations (At This Point in Time)

My Story

284

Lois Becker

Unknown
Anyway) Paula

Dad, Cancer and the Wedding
Surviving Cancer

275

282

Myself

Source

Resolve (For Today,

270

277

McKeehan

Bombeck

Me

Year

for the

267

O.P

Katherine Stephens Gallagher

Less a Starfish

A True

Sue

Tracy,

AND LESSONS

Lessons Cancer Taught

No

260

Sally deLipkau

Recovery

to

324

Hope

Sue Tracy, O.P

329
332

Intravenous Chicken Soup for the Soul

336

More Chicken Soup?

337

Who
Who
Who
Who
Who

Is

Jack Canfield?

338

Is

Mark

339

Is

Patty Aubery?

340

Is

Nancy

341

Is

Beverly Kirkhart?

Victor

Hansen?

Mitchell?

342

Contributors

343

Resources

353

Permissions (continued)

356

Foreword
was

quite honored

when asked

foreword
to Chicken Soup for the Surviving Soul I have been so
touched and inspired by the first two Chicken Soup books
that my foreword may turn out to be longer than the
book. On the other hand, I realized that I could also write
a one-word foreword. What is the one word? Love. I could
quote all the great spiritual leaders to emphasize this
point, but I think you, dear reader, know what I am saying, or you wouldn't be reading this book.
When we see an event that has an emotional impact
upon us, one of our choices is to repress the feelings it creates and bury them deep within. In my early years as a
physician I was very good at this. I thought I was protecting myself, but I was actually destroying myself. I finally
hurt enough to seek healing. Books like Chicken Soup for the
Soul were part of my healing because when you read, you
get in touch with your feelings. You can then express those
feelings so that you may heal your life and your body. So
I

to write the

and find healing in these pages.
Learn from the natives— those who have preceded you
and found paths to healing. We all have cancer in one
form or another— emotional or physical. Ninety percent

read, feel

of the people

I

speak to say,

"Life is unfair."

XI

What they

are

FOREWORD

til

really

saying

is,

"Life is difficult/' Yes,

of us, so therefore,

all

ing.

What

it

must be

book can reveal

this

how

fair.

to

but

We

you

is

it is

are

difficult for

all

complain-

not only

how

to

with all of life's difficulties and make life a more meaningful experience.
find as I care for people that they do not lack informa-

deal with cancer but

to deal

I

tion

about

how

to live a healthier lifestyle.

They

lack

inspiration that leads to transformation. For some, this

inspiration

comes when they learn that they have

a short

live— that they are not immortal. Well, none of
us are immortal, and so it is a lot wiser to read Chicken
Soup for the Surviving Soul and be inspired than to wait
until you have a life-threatening illness.
As I have said, my transformation came from my pain
as a physician, from storing everything inside me until I
suffered from post-traumatic stress disorder, common to
so many people in today's society. My patients became
my teachers. In helping them learn how to live between
office visits, I was also learning about living. So please
accept your mortality and find happiness and love. You'll
also find that the first person you need to love is yourself.
Who are the best teachers? I find they are the people
who don't die when they are supposed to. They will
enlighten you about life. Tl\ey know they are not statistics, nor are they controlled by statistics. A medical student I know got angry when he read that his disease
invariably recurs, and seven years later he graduated
from medical school with no sign of the "incurable"
tumor. Others set out to create a more beautiful world
and get so busy they forget to die. They suddenly have
time

left

to

permission to quit a job, take off a tie, move to the mountains or seashore, express love, assert themselves, explore
a spiritual life,

time

tor.

yourself;

They
it

is

read and do other things they never had
learn the truth of the statement, "Enjoy

later

than you think." Their enjoyment

is

not


FOREWORD

xiii

about being selfish. I can't believe how many people think
being happy is selfish. I am talking about people who contribute to the world in their own way, not the way someone else decides. As one woman said, "After I had done all

wanted

do before I died, I didn't die." Later
she wrote, "Now I'm so busy I'm killing myself. Help!
Where do I go from here?" I told her to take a nap. She
the things

I

to

wasn't burning out, she was burning up.

Others decide to leave their troubles to God and then
get well. Let the problems in your life be your teachers.
Always describe your difficulties with words that express
your feelings. Then look at the things in your life that fit
the description and heal them. Your life will improve and

you

Remember, life is a
not inflicted by someone else.

will derive physical benefits, too.

labor pain but the pains are

You decide what you go through to give birth to yourself.
We also know that if you experience labor surrounded
by caring people, you have far less pain and far fewer
complications. So reach out for the help you need. Create
a mutual investment society with your family, friends and
health care providers. The stories contained here will
guide you in how to do that.
These stories will also teach you that life isn't about
"Why me?" but "Try me!" You will learn that beating a disease or difficulty

isn't

only about curing

ing with adversity in such a

way

that

it

you

but about livinspire those

around you. You are a winner because of the
not because you don't die.

way you live,

Unhealthy guilt, shame and blame have no place in
your new life. If you lose your car keys, it isn't because
God is punishing you and wants you to walk home, and
if you lose your health it also is not because God is punishing you. We (God included) will help you to find your
health just as we would help you search for your keys
without guilt or blame.

FOREWORD

XIV

When you

live in

the

the change in your

As you

discover.

formation

is

moment you

life

will learn

the key.

I

will

be amazed

at

and the inner wisdom you
from reading

will let

you

in

on

this book, trans-

a secret that

I

only

share with readers on how
Your thoughts create chemical changes in your body.
to succeed at transformation.

What you experience and

moment
different

than

it

Spend a
body feels

anticipate alter you.

laughing, loving or playing and your

does during moments of anxiety, despair

or fear.

So what can you do? Behave as if you are the person you
want to be. We know from studies that actors and actresses,
when simply playing a role, alter their body chemistry

depending upon the emotion they are portraying.
When you finish your Chicken Soup and are feeling better, decide who you want to be and start becoming your
new self. No one can change you but yourself, but a good
coach can help bring out the best in you. Let this book be
a coach or guide, but seek out other coaches, too.
I will close with one important thought. William Saroyan
writes, "Everyone alive is an actor but almost everyone
alive is a very pathetic actor/' He goes on to say that this is
why you are given a lifetime to learn to act like yourself. So
forgive yourself when you are not the person you want to
be. Then get out your baby picture, look at it and forgive
yourself. Then get on with being who you want to be.
One last word of advice— read Chicken Soup for the
Surviving Soul and become enlightened. And for those of
\ ou who do not have cancer but may be a family member,

someone who does— or
human species— don't wait until

friend or health care provider to
I

ust a

member

your mortality
life

of the
is

threatened to

wake up

to the lessons of

presented here.
Bernie

S. Siegel,

M.D.

Acknowledgments
Like the prior volumes of Chicken Soup for the Soul, this
book took over a year to write, compile and edit. It was a
true labor of love for

all

of us involved,

and we would

like

to thank the following people for their contributions,
without which this book could never have been created.
Our families, who gave us the space to do the book and
the needed emotional support to persevere through what
seemed like a totally overwhelming and never-ending
task. You continue to be Chicken Soup for Our Souls day

day after day!
Heather McNamara, who spent countless hours late
into the evening and lots of weekends— reviewing the
manuscript and editing each and every draft. Heather, we
couldn't have done it without you!
Harold Benjamin, for his insights and brilliance during
this project and for taking the time to meet with us to go
over the manuscript— giving us much needed feedback.
Dr. Bernie Siegel, for taking time out of his busy schedule to offer advice, insights about the mind-body connection, medical information and much more.
Diana Chapman, for continually sharing her stories,
giving feedback on the manuscript and cheering us on
throughout the whole project.
after



xv

ACKNOWLEDGMENTS

xvi

Coping Magazine, for allowing us to request stories from
their readers in the "letters" section of the magazine.
Joel

that

Goodman, who

were very

on humor

sent us several pieces

helpful.

Anna Kanson at Guideposts, for researching and sending
us stories. Thank you for your patience! This book would
not be complete without you.

who

not only read the entire manubut also sent several stories and
quotes to help us bring much needed humor to the book.
Michelle Nuzzo, for the encouragement and ideas on
where to go for more resources and for editing the initial
version of the manuscript. Michelle, you were always

Meladee McCarty,

script in record time,

when we needed you!
John Wayne "Jack" Schlatter, who

there

continually sent in

wonderfully written stories and supported us throughout
the process of this project. You are a true friend, Jack!
Marci Shimoff and Jennifer Hawthorne, coauthors of
the forthcoming Chicken Soup for the Woman's Soul, for

sending in stories from all over the country.
Peter Vegso and Gary Seidler at Health Communications, for believing in us and continually getting our
books into the hands of millions of readers. Thank you,
Peter and Gary!

Kim Wiele, who kept our general office running during
the final phase of this project.
Kimberly Manson Culver, who helped read and grade
stories and worked many hours to help complete this
project.

Larry Price, who continues to support us and reinforce
us with encouragement.

Trudy Klefstad
script in record

at

OfficeWorks,

who typed

manuYou are a

the

time and with very few errors.

true g^m!

Christine Belleris,

Matthew Diener and Mark

Colucci,

ACKNOWLEDGMENTS

xvii

our editors at Health Communications, for their generous
efforts in bringing this book to its high state of excellence.
Also Teri Peluso at Health Communications, for her hard

work and

We

dedication.

thank the following people who read
helped us make the
final selections and made invaluable comments on how to
improve the book: Jeff Aubery, Kelle Apone, Brian
Barnwell, Harold Benjamin, Linda Blackman, Diana
Chapman, Mona Cohen, Manuel Diotte, Pam Finger,
Charles Green, Dr. Robert Grossman, Glenda Hawley,
Jennifer Hawthorne, Elizabeth Kapiloff, Kimberly
Kirberger, Edd Mabrey, Meladee and Hanoch McCarty,
Linda Mitchell, Michelle Nuzzo, Lee Potts, Dr. Ann
Raymer, Martin Rutte, John Wayne Schlatter, Marci
Shimoff, Bernie Siegel, Janet Switzer, Rebecca Wiederkehr,
Dr. Robert Wollman, Monique Djolakian Zgrablich and
the

also

first

Kelly

We

want

to

very rough draft of the book,

Zimmerman.
also appreciate

poems and quotes

all

the people

who

sent us stories,

Soup
for the Surviving Soul. While we couldn't use everything
you sent in, we were deeply touched by your heartfelt
intention to share yourselves and your stories with us
and our readers. Love to you!

We

for possible inclusion in Chicken

are sure in the

immensity of

this project

we have

out the names of some of the people who helped us.
For that we are sorry but nonetheless grateful for the

left

many hearts and hands that made this book possible.
Thank you all for your vision, your caring, your commitment and your actions.

Introduction
have a way of taking
Sometimes a person needs a
care of them.
story more than food to stay alive.
1 he stories people
.

.

tell

.

Barry Lopez

we

you
book contains over
100 stories that we know will encourage you to have more
hope, empower you to take charge of your life and your
healing process, inspire you to give and receive more
unconditional love, motivate you to fight and persevere
in the face of what may seem to be insurmountable obstacles and odds, invite you to share your feelings, persuade you to reach out for and accept more support, and
finally, convince you to live each day more fully and with
more humor as you pursue your heartfelt dreams with
more conviction. This book will sustain you in times of
frustration and challenge, and comfort you in times of
pain and suffering. If you let it, Chicken Soup for the

From our

hearts to yours,

are delighted to offer

Chicken Soup for the Surviving Soul This

Surviving Soul will truly be a lifetime

insight

companion, offering
areas of your

wisdom and guidance on many

recovery and your

life.

XVIII

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